|Therapy that helps you to heal, grow and evolve your life story
Our collaborative, client-led approach helps you to stop repeating patterns shaped by trauma, anxiety, neurodivergence and other lived experiences and explore what is possible for you through positive change and growth
Based in person in Loughborough and Chelsea and supporting clients from across the UK via online and telephone therapy.
Specialists in trauma. Founded and led by Dr Candice O’Neil Counselling Psychologist DCPsych MSc MA|
You may already have a very clear sense of what you are carrying.
Anxiety or depression that has taken over your life.
Low mood that has become your new normal.
Trauma from your past that shapes how you feel and behave today.
The lasting impact of childhood abuse or neglect.
A sense that you’re navigating a system that doesn’t fully understand you or create the space to shape your future.
Or you might simply know that something isn't right but you can’t pinpoint what it is.
The question underneath it is always the same: how did I get here and is it possible to live differently?
That question is at the heart of everything we do at Ontic Psychology.
Your story is always evolving. We empower you to write new chapters and a different ending.
Led by Dr Candice O'Neil (DCPsych MSc MA), a HCPC-registered Counselling Psychologist with a Doctorate in Psychology and over a decade of clinical experience across the NHS and private practice, we specialise in trauma integration and healing but we can also support you with a range of challenges and difficulties that shape who you are and how you navigate the world and support you to make positive changes to your behaviour through motivational interviewing (a counselling approach that helps you to uncover the motivation to make a positive behavior change).
You never need to relive any traumatic event that brings you to therapy. We focus on making sense of and processing the feelings and emotions linked to it and retraumatisation isn’t necessary or safe.
Dr Candice O’Neil
DCPsych: Doctorate in Counselling Psychology
MSc Psychology: GMBPpS British Psychological Society Accredited
MA: Leadership and Management
Ontic Psychology proudly provides evidenced based Psychological Services dedicated to your wellbeing.
Ontic Psychology can support you with the following issues
Sexuality
Bereavement
Depression
Complex PTSD
Anger
Chronic Health Issues
Self Harm Behaviours
Anxiety
LGBTQ+ Issues
Identity Issues
Career Change
OCD
Adult Developmental Issues
Trauma
Negative Thinking
Corporate and Individual Performance Coaching
Corporate Wellness
Relational Issues
Phobias
Motivation
“Emotions are not just experiences; they feature as a reminder of what is important to us and the principles of which we live by” van Deurzen and Adam
Therapy is built around you: your story, your pace and the life you deserve to be living.
Therapy at Ontic Psychology is client-led, gentle and compassionate.
Healing is non linear and it cannot be rushed, timed or measured against a standardised scale.
At Ontic Psychology, our support provides the time and space to navigate the journey for as long as you need.
Most people who come to us have tried Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) before. It may have offered some relief but didn’t reach the root of what you’ve been carrying, especially exploring the deeper questions of identity, meaning, growth, trauma and relationships that bring so many of our clients to therapy.
Therapy with Ontic Psychology goes deeper.
Grounded in Existential philosophy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, our approach works with the whole person: your story, your values, your sense of self and your capacity to grow to explore who you are and what becomes possible for you when you start to make conscious choices rather than repeating old patterns.
For clients carrying the weight of traumatic experiences, it offers a way to integrate them into your story rather than being defined or controlled by them.
We offer support with no time limits and a six-week review built into every client journey to ensure the support is genuinely meeting your needs and that you remain in conscious control of your own process.
Because real change begins when you can understand yourself clearly enough to start to write a different story for yourself.
“Having experienced Existential Therapy with Candice, it feels like it gets to the heart of my problems and I now have a greater understanding of how to move past things that held me back. I’ve had therapy before but this has been by far the most effective help I’ve had.” - Huw
“Life can only be understood backward but it must be lived forward” Soren Kierkegaard
You become a co-creator of your healing and your future
Your story is ever evolving and ever unfolding.
Therapy at Ontic Psychology is not something that happens to you. It is something we do together with you at the heart of your therapy.
Your personal autonomy and agency aka your ability to make choices and decisions and proactively take control of your goals, journey and future are the foundations of your care as an Ontic Psychology client.
You are an active participant in your own story and the relationship between us is a genuine human connection built on compassion, trust, safety, care and transparency.
Relational depth meets grounded compassion is the experience every client deserves and the standard every session is held to.
The goal isn’t to ‘fix’ you. It’s to help you to understand why you behave in certain ways, rediscover who you are and find ways to make life feel better.
Rather than managing what is ‘wrong’, we gently work toward unlocking what is possible.
You start to see a future where experiences that once defined you become part of an evolving story rather than a defining wound.
We see this repeatedly in our clients.
The client who arrived carrying the weight of childhood neglect and abuse (including years of self-loathing and deeply painful relationships in adulthood) and discovered who they truly were for the first time during therapy.
Or the client whose severe anxiety meant that leaving the house felt impossible was able to join fitness groups and drive long distances independently just eight months into therapy after separating their sense of self from their anxiety.
The client who wanted to change their behaviour but needed the right therapeutic approach to unlock the motivation and capacity to create positive changes.
These client stories are examples of what becomes possible when healing is given the time, safety and depth it deserves.
Therapy that walks alongside you for as long as you need
The expectation that six to eight sessions should be enough to feel better is one of the things that frustrates us most, especially when life is already challenging.
We see the impact of long NHS waiting lists and a limited number of therapy sessions on the clients who seek further therapy support at Ontic Psychology.
It’s why we provide a client experience that gives our clients the time, safety, compassion and relational depth that is so crucial on your journey and ensures you never feel rushed or abandoned at a critical stage of your healing.
Your support lasts for as long as you need it to and many of our clients choose to stay with us for more than 20 sessions to fully complete their healing journey in a safe and client-focused environment.
“A responded to person is already a more positively alive one..its not that the interaction affects the individual and then makes him different its in the very ongoing of that interaction that he is already different”- Gendlin
The Ontic Psychology Team
Dr Candice O’Neil
Counselling Psychologist DCPsych MSc MA.
Trauma specialist.
Dr Candice has completed specialist training in supporting individuals who have experienced acute childhood trauma and the PTSD that often accompanies these experiences.
She has completed a Doctorate in Counselling Psychology, including conducting a Doctoral thesis on relational experiencing for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
While her specialism is supporting clients to heal from trauma following childhood sexual abuse, she is skilled and experienced in supporting clients with everything from everyday challenges to more complex and enduring difficulties.
This includes adding Motivational Interviewing training to her skillset to support clients with creating the motivation for positive change.
Dr Candice is a passionate advocate for the neurodivergent community and acts as a board trustee at Autism East Midlands.
Pavel Gabaj
BACP Registered Psychotherapist & Counsellor
With over 13 years of experience in the UK mental health system, Pavol brings an empathic and compassionate approach to therapy.
He creates a space where clients feel truly seen and supported, especially when life feels heavy or overwhelming.
Pavol guides clients to go beyond coping and guides towards finding purpose, meaning and a stronger sense of self.
Working integratively, he draws from person centred, Gestalt, and existential approaches, tailoring his work to each individual’s unique story and integrating different perspectives to support each client in a meaningful way.
Pavol works online with individuals, couples and groups, offering flexible, accessible support wherever you are based.
He supports clients with:
• Anxiety and depression • Trauma informed care • LGBTQ+ affirming therapy • Relationship and intimacy challenges • Social anxiety and stress
To ensure therapy is accessible to all, he provides flexible sliding scale payment options.
Our Services
We work with clients from across the UK and internationally via online therapy, in person therapy in the Leicester, Loughborough and Chelsea areas or telephone therapy.
In person or Online Psychotherapy Sessions for Individuals
50 minutes
Couples Psychotherapy Sessions
60 minutes
Motivational Interviewing
Counselling therapy designed to help you to create the motivation for positive change
Adult ADHD Assessment and Diagnosis with optional care planning
POA
What becomes possible when therapy goes deep enough
Dr Candice in the media
Dr Candice is a trusted expert in UK media and television and is regularly asked to contribute her clinical expertise to features, campaigns and conversations on mental health, trauma, relationships and emotional wellbeing.
A Counselling Psychologist with a Doctorate in Psychology and over a decade of clinical experience across the NHS and private practice, she offers media teams a rare combination: deep academic and clinical expertise communicated in warm, accessible language that resonates with real people. She specialises in trauma, childhood sexual abuse, complex PTSD, anxiety, relationships and emotional wellbeing in everyday life.
She has contributed as a guest expert to platforms such as Sky News, Women's Health, Stylist, Glamour, HuffPost, Hello!, Yahoo News, Vogue India, The Mirror and Metro and has lent her expertise to national campaigns focused on safeguarding the emotional health of vulnerable groups across the UK.
Candice is open to contributing her expertise to new features, campaigns and broadcast opportunities. To discuss a potential media collaboration, get in touch via the contact form below.
FAQs about therapy with Ontic Psychology
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If you’re not able to access in person therapy in the Loughborough or Leicestershire areas, Ontic Psychology can support you with online therapy or telephone therapy. Both of these options are just as effective and safe as in person therapy. We also offer in person therapy sessions in Chelsea, London.
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Yes and the evidence supports this clearly. Research consistently shows that online therapy can help to create the same outcomes as in-person work. What matters most is not the way we work together but the quality of the therapeutic relationship we build and that can be built just as genuinely and just as deeply through a screen as it can across a room.
For trauma work specifically, there can be a safety advantage to having therapy in a space that is familiar, especially for sessions when you may be processing difficult. emotions Many of our clients report that online therapy helps them to feel more grounded and open in sessions rather than less.
That said, some people strongly prefer the experience of being in the same room as their therapist and that option is always available at our Loughborough therapy clinic. What matters most is that you choose the format that feels safest and most sustainable for you. We will always have that conversation before we begin.
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Dr Candice O'Neil of Ontic Psychology is a Counselling Psychologist specialising in the psychological impact of childhood sexual abuse and trauma. She works with the complex, long-standing difficulties that frequently accompany childhood sexual abuse, including complex PTSD, self harm, relationship difficulties, identity issues, depression and anxiety.
She has over a decade of experience working in the NHS, private forensic mental health settings and private practice, and works with the complex, long-standing presentations that frequently accompany childhood sexual abuse, including complex PTSD, self-harm, relational difficulties, identity issues, depression and anxiety.
Ontic Psychology is based in Loughborough and works with clients in person, online and by telephone.
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The therapy we provide at Ontic Psychology is often more effective than the therapy you may have tried before because it gets to the heart of your struggles and challenges and treats the whole person rather than presenting symptoms.
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The risk of retraumatisation is real and well documented and it is one of the reasons that the expertise and approach of your therapist matters so much.
The difference between trauma therapy that heals and trauma therapy that harms almost always comes down to two things: safety and pacing. When a therapist prioritises the therapeutic relationship, builds genuine safety before doing any deep work and follows the client's pace, trauma therapy does not reopen wounds. It creates the conditions for wounds that have never properly closed to finally begin to heal.
At Ontic Psychology, we do not ask clients to retell their trauma or provide detailed accounts of what happened to them. The work is not about the event. It is about how the event lives in you now and working with those present-day experiences to make trauma therapy genuinely healing rather than simply painful.
The goal is integration or a gradual process of making sense of your experiences and finding a way to carry them that no longer controls how you live.
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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Existential Therapy are both evidence-based approaches but they work at very different levels of your experience.
Existential therapy works at a deeper level than CBT. Rather than focusing on thoughts and behaviours, it explores how you understand yourself, your life, your relationships and your place in the world. It creates space to examine questions around identity, meaning, freedom, responsibility and the patterns that have shaped how you live.
Many people who come to Ontic Psychology have already tried CBT. They often describe gaining short-term relief but feeling that the deeper root of their struggles, particularly those linked to trauma, identity or long-standing emotional patterns was never fully reached.
Existential therapy aims to get to that root.
It helps you understand why you feel, think and behave in certain ways so you are no longer reacting automatically or repeating patterns that once felt out of your control. Instead, you begin to make more conscious choices about how you want to live and create lasting change.
Rather than focusing on fixing what feels “wrong,” existential therapy supports you to rediscover who you are, make sense of your experiences and move forward in a way that feels more aligned and intentional.
For many clients, this is the point at which therapy starts to feel transformative rather than temporarily helpful.
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Retraumatisation aka the experience of being harmed rather than helped by the therapeutic process is a genuine clinical risk and trauma therapists will be thinking about it actively from the very first session.
The foundations of trauma-informed therapy are safety, trust and pacing. Before any deep exploratory work begins, a genuine therapeutic relationship needs to exist in which the client feels truly safe, truly heard and in genuine control of how much they share and when.
At Ontic Psychology, we do not ask clients to recount their trauma in detail. Research is clear that forced or premature retelling of traumatic events can recreate the neurological and emotional conditions of the original experience — which is the opposite of what we are trying to achieve.
Instead, we work with how the trauma lives in a person now and how it shapes feelings, behaviour, relationships and self perception in the present. This approach allows deep and meaningful processing to happen without the risk of retraumatisation.
The pacing is always led by the client. At Ontic Psychology, we watch carefully for what a client can offer in any given session, noting their body language, their comfort and what they are ready to explore and use it to guide sessions.
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Ontic Psychology offers open-ended trauma therapy with no time limits and is led by Dr Candice O'Neil, a Counselling Psychologist with a Doctorate in Psychology and over a decade of clinical experience across the NHS and private practice.
The expectation that six to eight sessions should be enough to recover from trauma or from any other complex, long-standing difficulty is one of the most damaging assumptions in our industry. Healing is non-linear. It cannot be rushed or measured against a timeline.
At Ontic Psychology, we have built our entire practice around delivering the depth of support needed for recovery. Support here is available for as long as you need it. A six-week review is built into every client's journey to ensure the therapy is genuinely meeting your needs, you’re enjoying your therapy sessions and that you remain in co-creation of your own journey.
98% of our clients choose to continue beyond 20 sessions because they’re enjoying their time with us and are making meaningful progress in finding clarity, overcoming challenges and deepening their understanding of themselves.
Sessions are available weekly or fortnightly. Therapy with Ontic Psychology is available in person in our therapy clinics in Loughborough or Chelsea, London, online or by telephone.
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At Ontic Psychology, we do not ask clients to retell their trauma and there is a clear clinical reason for this.
Asking a trauma survivor to provide a detailed account of their traumatic experience carries a genuine risk of retraumatisation and recreating the conditions of the original harm within what should be a safe therapeutic space. This is well evidenced in the clinical literature on trauma and it is one of the most important things we are committed to protecting you from.
The way we work is not about what happened. It is about how what happened lives in you now: in your body, your relationships, your sense of self, and your capacity for trust and connection. We work with those feelings and experiences in the present, making sense of them, processing them, and gradually integrating them into your story as something that happened to you rather than something that defines or controls you.
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NHS therapy is typically capped at 6-8 sessions and may not provide enough time or depth to explore more complex needs, especially for trauma integration and healing. Therapy with Ontic Psychology is open ended, collaborative and puts the client at the heart of their therapy.
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For complex or long-standing difficulties and particularly for trauma, open-ended therapy is more likely to result in a deeper and lasting outcome versus time-limited models. The reason for this is not simply that more sessions equals more progress. It is because therapeutic work requires something that a fixed number of therapy sessions may not be able to provide safety in enough depth to fully support recovery.
Safety in therapy is built over time through the quality of the relationship between therapist and client. For many trauma survivors, particularly those whose early experiences involved a fundamental breach of trust, the process of building safety is itself part of the healing.
Open-ended therapy also allows for the natural non-linearity of healing.
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For many people, particularly those carrying trauma, complex PTSD, or the long-term impact of difficult childhood experiences, six to eight therapy sessions is simply not enough time to do more than scratch the surface.
When a system imposes a session limit, it creates an unspoken pressure on both client and therapist. Clients can feel they need to produce progress and therapists can feel they need to deliver results for the client. And the thing that gets sacrificed in that pressure is the very thing therapy depends on most — the gradual, patient building of genuine trust and safety.
What we see frequently in the clients who arrive at Ontic Psychology after a previous time-limited experience is not that therapy didn't help at all but that it often stopped at precisely the moment when they were beginning to feel ready for the real work to start. The experience of being discharged mid-journey can make the next attempt at therapy harder because it reinforces a fear that healing isn't really possible.
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Progress in therapy, particularly trauma therapy, rarely looks the way people expect it to. It is rarely dramatic and almost never moves in a straight line.
What you will begin to notice over time is pausing before reacting in a way you used to react automatically. You might notice that you can sit with a difficult feeling rather than immediately needing to escape it. You might catch yourself thinking about an old pattern and realising, with genuine surprise, that you no longer feel compelled to repeat it.
One of the most telling signs that we hear in some form from almost every client at a certain point in their therapy is a quiet realisation: "I notice I used to do this. And I don't have to do this anymore." That moment is agency returning or emerging for the first time and is one of the most significant things we witness in our practice.
There will also be sessions that feel frustrating or even harder than when you started therapy. This is not regression and is often the sign that something important is being approached and that feelings which have been buried are beginning to surface in a space that is finally safe enough to hold them. Learning to recognise that distinction is something we navigate together.
A six-week review is built into every client journey at Ontic Psychology. Every six weeks we ask honest questions together about how the therapy is meeting your needs, what has shifted and what you want for the next stage. This keeps you in conscious control of your own process rather than simply hoping progress is happening.
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For specific presentations that are not rooted in complex or long-standing trauma, CBT can be genuinely helpful. CBT can work well for some presentations, however the common limitation of CBT for trauma survivors is that it was not designed to do what deep trauma work requires.
CBT works at the level of thoughts and behaviours to identify unhelpful thinking patterns and develop strategies to respond to them differently. For a trauma survivor, the most significant difficulties are more likely to present in how a person understands themselves and navigates the world rather than thought patterns alone and require a different kind of work.
The other significant limitation is time. CBT is typically delivered in a fixed and relatively short course of sessions. For trauma that has been shaping a person's life for years and sometimes decades, this can result in symptom management but not process healing and integration.
This is precisely what most people who come to Ontic Psychology describe: the experience of having tried CBT and other therapies, finding some temporary relief and discovering that the same patterns kept returning because the root was never reached. If that has been your experience, it does not mean therapy cannot work for you. It means you may not yet have found the approach that can go deep enough.
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Motivational interviewing is a counseling approach designed to help you to unlock the motivation to make positive behavior changes and encourage growth. It’s a client-led, collaborative approach that is based on the concept that motivation for change comes from within and ‘draws out’ a client’s true motivation to change their behaviour to empower them to do so.
Dr Candice is trained to deliver Motivational Interviewing therapy for Ontic Psychology clients.
Your story is ready to evolve
Making the decision to engage in therapy is a courageous decision and we would love to use our expertise to help you to evolve your story and create the life you deserve.
Complete the enquiry form below and we will be in touch to arrange an introductory call.